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Harry Watson's avatar

As ever, Marianne, I much enjoyed reading your piece. Something I was taught as a youngster back in the early sixties is that if walking towards a woman, the polite thing for a man to do is to move to the side of the pavement nearest the traffic (so in the UK, adopting the move to the right approach). I still tend to do it, along with opening doors and, when sitting at tables to the side of a restaurant, having my back to the restaurant's centre so that a woman faces it. Oh, and giving up my seat on crowded buses if a woman is standing. I know all these things are of the past, not the done thing now and acknowledge the change in social norms, but also I recognise how such behaviour is still ingrained in me. Old dogs and new tricks, indeed.

Although regarding giving up my seat, I recall being on a bus in Italy not too many years ago and doing that for an older woman. The female partner of a much younger man and several others on the bus admonished the poor chap for not offering his seat to the woman in question. He eventually saved face by insisting I take his seat.

When I moved to the city in the 1970s, I soon learned to perfect what I called my London swerve. It was a manoeuvre an NFL running back would be proud of as they carved their way through a defence(s)e. Quickly cutting to the right or left and 'going for the gap' to avoid dawdling tourists and their propensity to move in any direction or even turn around on their heels without warning.

As for the British tendency to form orderly queues, I remember arriving at Naples (my favourite Italian City) railway station many decades ago to purchase a ticket. Before me was a melee of people clamouring to be the next to get to the ticket seller's window. I soon realised I would have to dispense with my British nature of waiting in line and thus dived into the morass of bodies. While I successfully obtained a ticket, it took me a few hours to overcome the trauma of throwing aside my British etiquette! 

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P Blake's avatar

One exception to the general left-side preference is that when walking in a road without a pavement (I.e. when sharing the road with vehicles) I was taught to walk on the right of the road, so as to face oncoming traffic.

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